“Don’t get me wrong” – I see/hear this in written text/ conversations when someone is making a point and trying to convince the reader/audience about something
These 4 words get me thinking:
- You’re showing your defensiveness and I think you’re starting off the back foot if you are defending the “appropriateness” of a point that you haven’t made yet
- Relatedly, you’re presuming that the point you make will offend someone. Regardless of whether you say those 4 words, someone is going to get offended.
- You are presuming a bias on part of your reader/audience – whether unconscious or not. Do you think folks are not capable of looking beyond what registers in their “echo chamber”- the world where only their ideas and opinions are valid. Might be some truth to that but is it worth getting into that?
- I’ve used these words on more than one occasion and I am guilty of these presumptions
- I’m trying to be self aware about it, hence this post.